3 steps towards finding your center as a leader

A couple of years ago a former colleague recommended a book that she knew of from her time at McKinsey. I downloaded it onto my Kindle, but I never found the time to read it until recently, when I began browsing the introduction and realized that the ideas presented in the book were completely in line with my passion for all things positive. As I read each chapter, and read the case studies, I found myself thinking that everyone should make the time to read it!

The book is called “How remarkable women lead: a breakthrough model for work and life” by Barsh,  Cranston & Lewis (2009) (or read this summary if you are pressed for time!).

While the McKinsey research that lead to the writing of the book and the development of the Centered Leadership Model was originally very much focused on women, the model can be and has since been applied in practice to male and female leaders.

Talent, the ambition to lead, as well as the ability to adapt and change may be the basis for a successful career, but those at the top benefit from additional skills that are not necessarily discussed in a typical career development conversation! And while the model particularly focuses on developing leaders, I really believe that anyone can benefit from the lessons shared in the book.

Those leaders that stand out from the crowd have often developed capabilities in five interrelated areas:

Meaning:finding your strengths and putting them to work in the service of an inspiring purpose”

Energizing: “managing energy, or knowing where your energy comes from, where it goes, and what you can do to manage it”

Framing: “positive framing, or adopting a more constructive way to view your world, expand your horizons, and gain the resilience to move ahead even when bad things happen”

Connecting: “identifying who can help you grow, building stronger relationships, and increasing your sense of belonging”

Engaging: “finding your voice, becoming self-reliant and confident by accepting opportunities and the inherent risks they bring, and collaborating with others”

(Descriptions quoted from the above-mentioned 2008 McKinsey summary report “Centered Leadership – how talented women thrive”)

So what’s in it for you? My take on this as a coach is that you can use this model to really quickly assess what areas in your work & life will help you in your career development, and which areas you might want to invest in.

Why not get started now? Step 1: Rate your satisfaction with each of these areas on a scale of 1-10. Step 2: Based on your assessment, what areas do you think might benefit from additional attention and care? Step 3: What can you do today to move the needle in the right direction and increase your satisfaction rating in these areas by one or two points?

Ensuring your career is meaningful to you, taking care of your energy levels, building a support network, learning how to bounce back from adversity and speaking up for what you believe in are all really positive steps to take and will benefit you not only at work but also in your personal life. And it will make you more authentic – after all, when you know who you are and what you are passionate about, you become so much more credible and inspirational!

Have a great week!

Best,

Sarah

N.B. the book “Centered leadership: Leading with Purpose, Clarity & Impact” was published in 2014 (Barsh, J., 2014, Crown Business), and McKinsey offer their Centered Leadership Program to all leaders looking to develop their skills.

When you hit the wall… Five thoughts to help you bounce back

When you are learning new skills there may come a point when you are so far out of your comfort zone that you don’t want to go any further. You feel like you have hit the proverbial wall. It is uncomfortable and looks like hard work! As a result, there is a real risk that you will give up on the new skill and more likely than not revert to your old ways.

What a missed opportunity!! Hitting the wall means you are well on your way to developing those new skills, and that you’ve already come a long way.

Here are five things you should consider when tackling that wall that can help you break through…

1. Recognise what you are thinking. The wall might be disguising itself as doubts, excuses, fears or any other negative emotion. Realising that what you are feeling is the wall allows you to take control again.

2. Understand that the wall is not impenetrable or unsurmountable. If you persevere, you will make it through to the other side, and that will become your comfort zone.

3. Know that done the hardest part already. Just getting started takes so much energy that once you have taken your first steps, you have actually done the hardest bit of the process.

4. You are not alone. When you are feeling like throwing in the towel it can really help you to reach out to others. At work, this could be your manager or trusted peer. If you are a freelancer it might be a mentor or coach or someone else who can give you a helping hand to get through the learning crisis.

5. Analyse the situation. What is causing you to hit the wall? How might you overcome these difficulties? What help do you need specifically? Breaking your needs down into manageable steps makes the process less frightening.

Last but not least… and this might not fit exactly with the go-get-it-now school of thought, but in some cases …. Maybe you are not quite ready to tackle your particular wall…???!!  If you find you do not have the resources or the energy, take a step back and see how you might be able to maneuver yourself into a better position to approach the wall the next time round. That might mean giving yourself permission to wait a while before attempting it again, checking if it is the right wall to scale, gaining more confidence in yourself or learning different skills first that will help you long term.

What walls have you overcome, and how did you do it? I’d love to hear about your success stories!

All the best,

Sarah